Finding Inner Peace and True Connection
Marriage changed me. It's funny how one moment can change everything, isn’t it? Just the other day, my new husband gave me a birthday card that read, "My wife, I love you to the moon and back." Simple words, yet they triggered a profound sense of peace, safety, and a deeper understanding of love and commitment.
From Avoiding Marriage to Embracing It Fully
Marriage wasn’t always on my agenda. I was never the type to dream about weddings or see marriage as a necessary milestone. Then I met him. Gradually, something shifted. Our relationship felt healthy, our communication was strong, and our intimacy was fulfilling. But beyond that, there was a spiritual connection—a transcendence I hadn’t expected.
Marriage changed me in ways I couldn’t have foreseen. While marriage wasn’t in my plans, it has become one of the most rewarding aspects of my life.
Seeing Love Through a New Lens
Sometimes, I catch my husband looking at me with such pure love that it feels like he's looking straight into my soul. He sees all of me—the good, the bad, and everything in between—and loves me even more for it. The shift from girlfriend to fiancée to wife has brought positive changes I didn’t anticipate, especially in my emotions and identity.
Overcoming Fear and Finding Security
Before the wedding, I was terrified. Old fears of relationship failure resurfaced, and I was a mess. But the day after, something shifted. Despite my Master's degree in Psychology, I couldn't explain it; I just felt secure. For the first time, I felt like we could face anything together.
Marriage changed me, bringing a new sense of security and partnership I hadn’t realised I needed.
Reflecting on the Source of My Inner Peace
Is this newfound peace because he’s the first person who truly wanted to marry me? Or is it simply because he’s the right person? Sometimes, I wonder if my emotions are influenced by where I am in my menstrual cycle, as I have PMDD and that can make things harder. Yet, I think this peace goes beyond temporary feelings—marriage somehow changed me on a deeper level.
Appreciating the Moment
Maybe I need to appreciate these feelings for what they are, accepting this peace and love without overthinking it. Can you relate? Have you experienced a similar shift after marriage? What changed for you, if anything? I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Head over to my socials and join the conversation.
If you would like to read more about mindset shifts in Marriage, here is some further reading:
Here is a recent journal article exploring Growth Mindset in relationships.
Or if you feel like you may benefit from some relational coaching with myself, please feel free to contact me here.
Much Love,
Anabel x